Commitment is many things.
It’s not just about sex or monogamy. Yes, that’s a large piece. But…
When you say you are committed to this relationship, I hope you are promising to continually express interest in me and discover new things about me- things you didn’t know before. I hope it means you will always continue to date and pursue me.
When you say you are committed to me, I take that to mean you will work to understanding my thoughts and feelings – even if they fall far from your own beliefs.
I believe you are telling me you will be transparent and honest- even if it’s uncomfortable. That you are committed to trusting me and my motives. Committed to respecting me. Committed to sharing your whole life with me- not just selective parts.
And, I hope it means your are committed to affirming me. I want to help you get where you are going and I need that too.
Above all, I believe you are saying you are committed to finding a way, especially when it gets difficult. You are committed to fighting for us.
When you say you are committed to me, I translate that to mean all of the above.
In case you were wondering – this is what I mean when I tell you I’m committed to you.